I recently did 2 double sessions with Mistress Lexx Envy and her sub/Dom partner in evil Lady Orion. I came down all the way from Long Island to Philadelphia to see these seductive beauties. I immediately booked the Second session that very same week because I had such a good time and the second visit was even better. We mostly did ballbusting, tease and denial and foot worship and they executed it with such evil enjoyment and with a professional touch. This was one of the best sessions I have had in the past 7 years of sessions with some top industry dommes. They both are a lot of fun and I was completely comfortable with them and allowed them to try new things and push my boundaries. They have these sexy, cute, wicked smiles, amazing bodies and perfect feet. I can’t wait to drive another 3 hours to Philly for these ladies to bust my balls again soon. It was completely worth it and I’d gladly beg at their feet for another chance to serve them.
So something I feel should be addressed (but never see blogged about) is The Black List.
The Black List is real- it is a comprehensive list of aliases, real names, email address, IP addresses, phone numbers and so-called preferences of gentlemen who seem to either not realize they are time wasters, or get off on wasting a Domme’s time and appointments. It’s shared by not only our select group but a wide range of Dommes across the country, mostly by traveling or local Dommes in a particular city’s scene. We DO talk, and we DO keep track of clients who no call/no show, cancel last minute or send long winded, frantic emails designed to solicit a response for a free “get-off.” Also listed are clients who started out as normal subs but get overly attached, go beyond bounds or become dangerous in their obsessions with their Mistresses.
The BDSM community on the whole looks out for each other, but especially our very own Philly Sister Dommes. Be forewarned that if you contact a Domme and claim to have seen us, we will have a record of it and will be able to verify. Likewise if we are seeing someone new, a reference and a deposit may be demanded to make sure that you are sincere. If you provide a false reference you will be ignored outright. There are those out there that are too cheap to put out for a real session, and therefore try to get their rocks off by pretending to be sincere, or are just too stupid to realize that a session is blocked off for you and you alone, and if you don’t call to confirm it’s not considered booked, or if you cancel last minute, that you are now on the shit list of that Domina.
Most of us have a good bullshit meter and also are willing to allow for the real situations that come up- hey, we all know that work and emergencies do happen- but we each have a limit. Cross it, and never get a real session in the city of your choice again. If you truly offend you will be posted to the public Black List websites, where your name, phone number, email and any other relevant info will be made public for easy search engine inquiries- which is VERY unfavorable as most of us Google names and phone numbers these days… The internet is a wonderful, terrible thing. Not the sort of website most people would like to find their personal info on and easily found via search engine, no?
Time Wasters also waste money; for a lot of us, this is our career. We are good at it for a reason, and our discretion and ability to fulfill your kink is the reason for the tribute. Perhaps they don’t know that they also are wasting time for a sub who could have served their Mistress and had their needs met until the desire strikes again, as if is often wont to do.
In short- make sure you use some common sense when booking with a Dominatrix. If you don’t know that you can keep your appointment, or if you are easily confused by email, then don’t schedule one. Not only are you being disrespectful to your Mistress, but you are hogging the space of a sub that actually needs the relief a session can bring. Wasting our time is also wasting a fellow slave’s, and being rude gets your nowhere….
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I saw one of My regular toys the other evening. He’s very into sploshing which I do not get to do very often. It can get a bit messy but I have an enjoyable time none the less. Besides, I can get him to eat most of the mess. He also loves feet and humiliation. The more dirty and degrading the better. How delightful! I make him do the most ridiculous things. I’ve covered him in chocolate sauce, trampled and rubbed My feet all over him and made him lick all the chocolate off My dirty feet. I spit on him, I’ve stuffed him with cupcakes to then make him eat it. The other night I was nice enough to allow him to jerk off onto a piece of cake. Of course I then made him eat it. Whatever he could’t eat he had to rub on himself. The depravity is endless with him. I know he enjoys every second of the humiliation. I mean how else would he be able to get an attractive woman to pay any attention to him? I do enjoy playing with him. He is very sweet and submissive. I wanted to try jello at one point but realized the food coloring would be a pain in the ass to get off. I think our next session I may try pudding. Smooth and silky to the one it is being rubbed all over. Would glide nicely over the skin.
I was recently reminded of why I enjoy foot fetishists so much. He had never seen a Pro Domme before. His email was kind, respectful and honest. Qualities I look for in a potential pet. His main interest was worshiping My feet. I asked if there was anything else he may be interested in exploring. He said he trusted Me and if there was something I enjoy, he was open to trying it. I just love hearing that. Once a pet makes me aware of hard limits and I know their interests, I can think of some creative activities that we would both enjoy.
He arrived dressed for the occasion. He told Me he had actually gotten done work early that day so he was able to shower, shave and get changed. He said he read My website and wanted to present himself at his best. I always prepare Myself for a session and when a slave prepares himself to impress Me and go beyond following directions, it is just a delight from the start. From here we got right to it.
I told him to start by kneeling at My feet, kiss My shoes. I also knew he had a stocking fetish, so of course I had on black lace top thigh high stockings. He asked if he could kiss My legs and I allowed it. I too adore the feeling of stockings on My skin. We spent the next few hours exploring foot fantasies. Did some light bondage,teasing and trampling, even let him lick some chocolate off My feet. Most of our session was spent with him massaging My feet. He was afraid I would get bored with him but quite the contrary. Who would not like a long foot massage? Foot fetishists obviously give fantastic foot massages. We chatted about our similar interests, wine and travel, as he rubbed and kissed My feet. That was definitely a mutually satisfying experience. I told him next time to bring some wine and grapes. I’m already thinking of a foot play scene for our next time together!
I have a pain slut who I love to session with. He’s very open minded and loves when I push his limits. Inflicting pain on him puts a smile on My face and that is what brings him pleasure. He can’t always receive marks which is fine because I can get creative. For instance we had a short notice session not too long ago. He just couldn’t stay away. He’s such a loyal slave I had no problem meeting up with him on such short notice. Plus we always have a great time together. Since I couldn’t give him a thorough beating, I had to come up with other options. One of my favorite ways to inflict pain without leaving marks is electro. We have a great hand held electro shock gadget at the studio. It’s quite intense. I love having a slave tied to the cross facing the wall letting him think I’m going to seduce him. Then out of no where shock him with it. Now this slave is quite the pain slut so when I shock him with it and almost bring him to his knees, I am quite a happy Domina. I also find layering effective for those who can not receive marks but want an intense session. Things like tying up balls, then feeding the rope through the hook in the ceiling and adding weights to the end. Layer that with a tens unit on the cock, nipple clamps and maybe some vibration on those stretched out balls.This makes for some very interesting pain sensations with no marks. Another great one I like with minimal marks is after some piercing play but before releasing my pet from bondage, squeezing a little lemon juice over the freshly pierced cock. I’m laughing just thinking about it. Now even with slaves who can receive marks I like to incorporate activities like this. Keeps it fresh and unexpected. I think is is important to experiment with sensations for the pain sluts. Just when they think I can’t push them further, I add a layer of something unexpected and I hear them begging for mercy.
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