During the course of training our lovely new apprentice, Lady M, it’s been fun to not only show her the how’s and why’s, but also explaining the hidden aspects of our line of work. Last night for example, in getting her website taken care of- the text of a website tells you a lot about the Domme you are interested in. Is her grammar and spelling correct? Is it descriptive without sounding egotistical? Do her interests line up with yours? Are her photos flattering, and does it really portray the person you end up seeing?
Nothing is worse then a site with these errors. Not everyone can breeze through with a 4.0 in their English courses, but spell check or a site designer can easily fix these flaws.
We also got into the whole aspect of telephone sessions, which are not only fun but are a great way to session with clients that can’t afford the tribute of a regular, in the flesh one. I have spent several very memorable evenings enjoying a glass of wine and describing how I’m making my phone whore suck my toes, or ordering him to take a belt and crack his ass with it so I can hear it over the line. Sometimes a descriptive conversation about the slippery feel of my latex catsuit against my flesh, or how I’ll chain him to my wall and pour hot wax all over his balls, can be a great way to encourage a visit for the real deal.
Explaining tribute is also enlightening- while it seems subs are offering a lot for a short period of time, the costs to a Domme behind the scenes does demand it. A hour session should be totally fulfilling for both, but there’s also the demands on your Mistress’s time. You may play from 6-7, but she’s got to travel to the play space, make sure she’s dressed and made up to fulfill the fantasy you are looking for, and let’s be honest- fetish clothing is not cheap. What is only an hour for you, is more like 3 for her… And the rent of play space, photos, and advertising- as well as the aforementioned website? It adds up, my friend.
Propriety and hygiene on a slave’s part is also important. Nothing is worse then a sub with swamp ass. Bitch, I took time to look and smell good, the least you can do is spend 5 minutes with some soap and a wash cloth to freshen up the downtown. Cleaning the mussy is also key. If you get shit on my carpet, I’ll make you clean it with your tongue. Toys, cleaning products, puppy pads, even plastic liners for messy play like GS or sploshing add up. God I love throwing food at a slave… Pudding makes the most hilarious sound as it splats a face.
I once had a noob who had never seen a Domme or had any experience in BDSM. We went over the rules, tried several kinks and when I got out my strap on and started making him suck it, he took that as invitation to try and stick his fingers in my lady bits. I have never had to slap someone so hard without it being agreed on beforehand. He looked extremely surprised and I told him very sternly that we had discussed that I was not a hooker with a whip and what he was and wasn’t allowed before we got started. His response of “But I paid you more then I paid the call girl I saw last night” was laughed at and I informed him if he was looking for that, he’d be better off buying the toys and paying the call girl instead of expecting anything like that from a respectable Domme. What a dumb fuck.
Slaves- be warned. Why I may cuckold you or tease you by waving my pantied, luscious and firm ass in your face, if you EVER think it’s alright to touch my magnificent pussy, you got another thing coming.
With kinky thoughts,